My Approach To Your Healing

Creating Empowered Boundaries

Empowered boundaries happen when you listen to your internal truth, and you expect that your truth will be respected and accepted.

When you struggle with your own (or other people’s) boundaries, it means that at some point in your life, your truth was taken away from you and your truth was not accepted. You learned that when you are yourself, you are rejected.

Typically, this happens when you are young and your caregivers/parents override your attempts for your own space, your expression of your needs and your autonomy (the sense that you matter). Many times, you are being made responsible for other people’s feelings (e.g. your Mom or Dad are only happy when you meet their needs).

The message given to you is that it’s shameful to set boundaries, you are wrong to set boundaries, and bad things happen if you speak your truth.

To stay safe, you then stopped setting your boundaries. You adopt a pattern of giving away your power. And you never learned what is FEELS like (in your body) to set boundaries, speak your truth and expect to have your own space and feelings.

In our work together, we focus on giving your internal truth a voice again. You learn what it feels like to know your physical, emotional, and energetic space. You learn what your internal limits and needs are (instead of asking advice from other people).

I give you tangible tools to learn this so that you can re-discover your own, empowered boundaries again.

Totally do-able.

Confidence

The big secret about confidence is: it’s really about inner safety.

When you feel safe internally, you can express what you believe in, stand up for yourself and show the world what you are capable of.

When you lack confidence, your nervous system is not in a balanced, regulated state of feeling safe. Due to some earlier experiences in your life, your nervous system learned that to protect you and keep you safe, you need to spend time outside of relaxation and expansion, and instead you need to be alert or shut down. This is called fight, flight or freeze.

Because you learned that a contracted state protects you and keeps you “safe”, your nervous system went on autopilot, and you spend a lot of time in this contracted stated. From there, you don’t trust yourself, you don’t trust others, you doubt you are enough, and you hold back instead of sharing with the world around you who you truly are.

In our work together, you learn how to balance and regulate your nervous system so that you can come back to an internal sense of safety. You then learn how to relax and expand, how to trust yourself, and how to express yourself confidently in this world.

And it will feel easy.

It’s so very possible.

Deeper Relationships

You long to be seen, understood, and loved – just the way you are.

You are looking for those connections that make you feel that way.

For those deep connections to be possible, you need to feel safe to let them happen.

Most of the time, when you are not finding these deeper relationships, it’s because your very smart and loving SYSTEM (nervous system, body, subconscious) is restricting access to these intimate connections – to protect you from getting hurt (again).

This happens because in the past you learned a certain (insecure) attachment style when relating to others (e.g. when your caregivers were not able to meet your needs of safety, trust, attunement, love etc. as a child). You never learned how to relate in a deeper, open, truly connected, intimate way in many types of relationships.

Your autonomic nervous system became dysregulated to keep you safe! It’s got your back then, and it’s got your back now! Only now, you don’t need this protection anymore. In fact, it’s keeping you from what you truly want! (feeing connected to yourself and others).

Your nervous system keeps standing on guard for you! It’s so proud to be your #1 protector! But this also keeps you relating to others is a very contracted way! You spend most of your life experience in fight/flight/shut down/freeze, which makes it impossible to connect on the deep level you are longing to be seen!

A dysregulated nervous system is the primary reason you are not able to connect with others on the deeper level you want.

In our work together, we will focus on healing your attachment wounds so that you can experience secure attachment and connection. We will show your nervous system how to regulate, so you can open the door to more expansion, trust, safety to be yourself, and grounded presence in the moment.

This allows you to invite deeper relationships into your life.

Living Your Purpose

First, let me tell you – you have many purposes in your life (I have a whole Module on Purpose and Soul Plan!).

The confusion about your purpose comes from a loss of connection to your intuition and your inner wisdom.

To live your purpose in an empowered way, you need to tune yourself to become who you are meant to be.

One way this tuning process happens is by rewiring your brain, growing new connections (neuropathways) which hold new information.

If you are doubting yourself now, what experience would you like to have instead? Self-belief?

If you are feeling unfulfilled now, what would you like to feel instead? Peaceful? Content? Happy?

If you would feel peaceful and happy, do you think you would gain more clarity about your purpose?

Absolutely.

In our work together, I will show you and lead you through processes to rewire your brain to become the person you wish to be. Once you dedicate your energy in a new direction, your system will begin to lift into a higher vibration. You will gain greater access to your intuition, your inner wisdom, and consequently your purpose and potential.

All of this is your birth right and you CAN have this!